Lagging Behind Your Goals? Here’s How to Save the Other Half of the Year
Because every day is a new opportunity for change
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The first half of 2018 has come and gone. And like many people — like those doing the respark 2018 challenge on Instagram — you may feel that you may have lagged behind reaching the goals you set at the beginning of the year.
But before anxiety gets the best of you, keep in mind that you don’t have to wait until 2019 to start over; you can pick up where you left off.
Writes psychotherapist Jonathan Alpert in his Inc. column, “Every week, and every day, presents a new opportunity for change. There really isn't anything magical about January 1.”
He advises, “If you haven't successfully kept your resolutions in the past, see it not as a failure but rather as a learning experience and an opportunity to tweak your approach and implement a fresh resolution starting now.”
Here are three inspiring tips from Alpert to make anyone “respark” their way halfway through the year.
1. Set the goal for yourself
“Internal motivation is far more powerful and lasting than externally driven motives. For example, it doesn't make sense to strive for a size 2 just because it's the style du jour. Your resolution should meet your needs, not those of others,” Alpert writes.
It’s time for self-love. There’s no bigger motivation out there than the one that comes from within.
2. Realize the power of the mind
The mind can be our strongest ally or our worst enemy. The good news is we get to choose which scenario we want to happen.
“Make a distinction between feeding your body and feeding your emotions and find alternative ways of handling stress, such as psychotherapy, yoga, or exercise,” Alpert says.
Don’t allow negative thoughts to get in the way of your progress.
3. Develop a lifestyle
“A common mistake — and a reason for resolutions not being maintained…is that they are set too high and too rigidly,” says Alpert.
He advises people to develop a lifestyle, which they can actually stick to. Start with easy tasks or break larger goals into smaller, manageable tasks. Write it down, if you have to. Accomplishing these can give a sense of fulfillment no matter how small the victory may be.
And most of all, don’t look too much to the past or further into the future, congratulate yourself on the little accomplishments you make today that lead to bigger, more meaningful goals.